Its ok to go through hard times

Wow, its really hard to be a person in trouble. I mean with problems that you can`t see on the outside. Especially in todays society when you`re supposed to look like a very successful person. Even in church or maybe is it even worse there. You`re not ment to show that you have a problem and if you admit that you`re not fine(that`s what you`re supposed to answer when someone ask you how you are doing. Fine.) But I am far from fine and I am just not going to pretend that I am. But when I admit that I am just not fine. I often meet a wage response, like it will be ok at the end. Or they start talking about something else. They get uncomfortable. I normally don`t mind that they start talking about something else, I mean sometimes a response just makes it worse.
Why is it that we always have to be ok and fine? I mean everyone, every single person on this earth go through hardships and struggles from time to time. Some more than others, but everybody have times of hardships.
Why isen`t ok to be in pain in a social setting? Why do we have to stop being social because we are going through some hard times?
Yesterday I went to church and a friend of me ask if I`m not good anytime, because everytime she ask me how I am doing I answer that I am not good now. Maybe I happen to meet her those days that are just not good at all. I mean this week the weather has been amazing and yes it made me more happy, but I am still sick. I still have a body that don`t cooperate with me. I want to have fun, join this party, go to the beach and get a tan. But I just can`t. If I choose to take a shower one day and than I have an appointment to meet a friend that is all I can do that day. I want to be able to spend more time with my friends, but I just can`t.

I could try to push myself to do more than what my body tells me I can and I do sometimes. It almost everytime ends up with me getting even worse. So than I ask myself if its worth it.
And than you have my friends. Well, my closest friends respects my boundries and they understands as much as they can without ever being in a similar situation. But than you have my other friends, the once I don`t see that often or those who live out of town and are here just from time to time. When they are in town and I can`t meet them they take it personally when it has nothing to do with them as a person. Its simpley not possible for me to meet them.

It is so incredibly hard and most of the time I am confused and don`t understand this. How on earth am I than going to be able to explain it to my friends and my family?

I sometimes tell my friends to read the spoon theory. It might make you understand a little bit more how it is.
http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory-written-by-christine-miserandino/

I started complaining about why its not ok to have bad days and periodes where everything is not good. It should be ok. Can`t it just be ok. Why does people don`t understand that that is also a normal part of life and stop making it something that is so terrible. I mean it feel really bad but its just for a time being.

Have a blessed day.
God loves you, even if you`re having a bad day ;)